Russian woman – choosing the right one for you
Choosing the right Russian woman
Some Western men who set out to find a Russian woman for marriage are not being very realistic when they start contacting girls who are much younger and have the looks that are way out of a guy’s league. I have already talked about age disparity in the previous blog, but picking a “believable” Russian woman match for yourself in regards to appearance is also very important. Generally it doesn’t make sense when a bolding, 70 lbs. overweight, out of shape 50 or 60 year old guy is seeing with a gorgeous, model-like 22 year old girl on his arm. Sure, anything is possible and there will always be exceptions to the rule, and if you have the fame and fortune of some one like Woody Allen you may have a beautiful young girl fall in love with your persona. However most of us have to be a bit more realistic in our expectations and as a rule choosing a more believable woman (whether it is a Russian woman or not) will yield much better results in regards to both finding and maintaining a relationship with a Russian woman.
You must forget the old “All Russian women want to get out of their country and come to America” way of thinking. No one wants to get out of Russia any longer and you are not doing any Russian woman a favor by bringing her to the USA, Canada or another Western country. In fact having to relocate to another country to be with you is usually a negative for a Russian woman. Imagine how tough it is for a Russian woman to come to your country! She has to leave her family and friends, quit her career, leave her entire support system behind and come to a completely unfamiliar place where they speak a different language, the culture is different and where she doesn’t know any one. She will have to completely rely and depend on her man for everything in the beginning. This wouldn’t be easy for any woman or man.
Think about this in real life terms. When you are looking at a photo of a Russian woman, ask yourself: “Would a local woman who looks like this go out with me and possibly marry me?” If the answer is “No way!” what makes you think that a Russian woman would?
Dating a beautiful Russian woman
There is a bit of a good news!
While in the West (N. America, Western Europe) we are experiencing a deficit of good looking, slim, single, feminine (not feminist), marriage minded, family oriented women the situation is a 180 degrees in reverse in the countries of the former Soviet Union (Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Moldova, etc.). They are experiencing a huge deficit of single, decent, non-drinking, not abusive, marriage minded, family oriented men. There is a large number of Russian women who have absolutely no chance of ever getting married and having a family of their own unless they significantly lower their standards…
Unlike Western women, Russian women are not spoiled by the availability of many single, reasonably attractive, marriage minded men around, so they don’t set their standards as high as the women in the Western countries, and if they do find a good guy that they like they generally tend to hold on to him, unlike Western women who in many cases like to continue looking around, “exploring other options” and basically looking for “A better deal”.
This disparity in the ratio between sexes makes it relatively easy for Western men to find much better quality women in Russia, Ukraine, Belarus and other FSU countries than they could find locally, where they live. But keeping it realistic and not trying to marry a Russian woman who is way out of your league is strongly advised.
The rule of thumb that I suggest to my clients is to not go more than a couple of steps above of the women they normally date at home. For instance if you date women who are 4 and 5 (on the scale of 1 to 10) you can easily find a wonderful Russian woman who is a 6 or a 7. Looking for a 9 or a 10 wouldn’t be very realistic. If you are dating 6s and 7s at home you can easily find 8s and 9s in Russia who will be happy to date and marry you later.
Too many Western men who are quite average in looks and everything else think that somehow they have this imaginary “special value” because he can provide a Russian woman the way to citizenship in his country. This way of thinking is flawed and dangerous, because you just might get what you wish for – a rare woman who for some reason is interested in obtaining citizenship in your country and will use you as a stepping stone.